is it possible to be honest 100% in relationship?

        First and foremost, what is meant by honest? Honest is characterized by sincerity. Honesty is not something that we just only sharing facts. It is also includes sharing experience, information with a view to further the relationship. In general, sometimes honesty hurts. If we want to interact honestly in relationship, the first thing to do is built the foundation for the relationship that can withstand the pain of honesty. We can divide relationship into several categories and I have divided it into three categories which are in terms of parents, friends, and spouse. 

        In my opinion, it is possible to be 100% honest in relationship with our parents. Why? As we all know, honesty is the best character to strengthen the relationship between parents and their children. Usually, most of the children often lie out to protect themselves when they did a mistake. They worry about being punished or making their parents mad. On the other hand, when children tell the truth, parents should praise them for being honest. Children should know that their parents will appreciate the truth. Besides, for the parents, they need to show the good examples to their children, so that it can produce 100% honest in this relationship. Without full attention from the parents, children may find it is difficult to be honest in the relationship. For instance, I give one situation. I love to tell all those single things towards my parents, especially my mother. It is because I will be happy if I get a full trust from my mother. If I had been dishonest towards my mother, maybe she feels sad and not gives a full trust to me. Besides that, if we are lying to our parents, big problems will occur. The fact also has mentioned that if you've done something wrong or lying about something, it won't make matters better for anyone, including yourself and it is for the long-term. So, it is possible to be 100% honest in relationship with our parents.

        Then, we move on to the second categories which is it not possible to be 100% honest with our friends. Friends play an important role in our life. They are the ones who can share our happiness ans sadness. Sometimes, when we get stuck in troubles, our friends are here to give us a help. Honesty is considered to be a quality in association with friends. This word friend has nothing to do with dishonesty. But as for "completely honest”, it depends on different cases. In most circumstance, just like when normal chatting or discussing something, complete honesty is possible because it can lead us to better communication with our friends. Furthermore, in some special situation complete honesty is necessary. However, in our daily life now, it is conflicts and friction between us and our friends that bring about confusion and annoyance. In that circumstance, I don't think it's possible to be completely honest with my friend, for the reason that, during a quarrel, or some other conflicts, it's wise to be lie some of our real feeling such as anger and disappointment. In other words, to some extent, dishonesty with mild and gentle words may be the right way to deal with unhappy environment, instead of telling friends your true feeling straightforward. To sum up, it is no need to be 100% honest in the relationship with our friends.

        Next, the last category is it possible to be 100% honest in the relationship with spouse? As for me, being too honest with our spouse might not be too good.  It is possible to trust our spouse without necessarily telling him or her everything about ourselves. Sometimes being too honest can ruin our relationship. It is clearly show us that being too honest might not be a good thing. We should decide our relationship and whatever our heart feels comfortable. If not it will affect our mind whether should be honest or dishonest in the relationship with our spouse. We all want to know exactly what the person we are having a relationship with thinks or do but sometimes what we do not know will not hurt us. For example, if our spouse says that he or she doesn’t love you anymore. We might also never look at them the same way we used to look at them before he or she told us the truth. The respect we had for them also disappears because they did something that we don’t like. That is why sometimes letting what happened in the past is in the past is a good approach to life. Then, it is not possible to be 100% honest in relationship with our spouse.

        As a nutshell, it is possible to be honest in relationship with our parents but not in relationship with our friends and spouse. There’s no denying that honesty can be painful, both for the individual delivering honesty as well as the individual receiving the honesty. We should know our parent, friends and spouse very well. We must know what they expect of us and what they do not. If the person cannot handle the truth, spare them and tell them half-truths, if they can bear to be told the whole truth just go ahead and tell them the truth.